Story Behind The Song
As a survivor of abuse, and S/A, I wanted to write something that was bold in truth, to help bring healing.
When I was in an emotional abusive relationship, I discounted it because it wasn't "physical" yet, I had also survived physical and sexual assault. When you are in it, you lose your voice. You lose your sense of who you are because they isolate you and tear you down.
When you finally find some strength and courage, you don't always have a loud voice and fight. Your voice might be quiet still, but there is still strength in it because you are standing up for yourself.
This song reflects the strength, in the quiet voice. The initial stand of courage, to break free from the abuser.
Song Description
Not every voice is loud when you are beginning to find your courage in an abusive situation. This song reflects the first acts of courage. Emotional, raw, authentic, and brave.
Not every song of survival will be sung in a powerful way, but there is power in finding your voice. Even the quiet voice.
| Song Length |
4:55 |
Genre |
Pop - Alternative, Pop - Easy Listening |
| Tempo |
Very Slow (Under 70) |
Lead Vocal |
Female Vocal |
| Mood |
Poignant, Troubled |
Subject |
Violence, Recovery |
| Language |
English |
Era |
2000 and later |
Lyrics
You Don't Know Me
Written By PJ Bennett
(Pamela Jean Bennett)
I was mistaken
For letting you back in
Did you come back
To make me cry
Now I know you say that
People changed but
You're no better at love,
You're better with the lie.
And you see me
As some weak thing
Who needs your strength
To get by
But you'll never know me
Better than I know me
I became stronger
When you said goodbye
I'm not fragile
I deny you
I'm not fragile
I'm stronger
Than you'll ever be
Oooh ,
Oooh
You don't know me
You think I'm brittle
Tell me I'm broken
Put me down
All the while
You tell me you're the only one, Who
Could ever love me
And every inch,
You stole a mile
You see what you want to see
I'm reclaiming my body
And I'm
Truly free.
You don't know me
You don't know me
And I'm stronger than you'll ever be
I'm not fragile
I deny you
I'm not fragile
I'm stronger than you'll ever know
Oooh,
Oooh
And you left these bruises
To remind me,
Not to fall again
I deny you
You don't own me
And these scars
Are on the mend
I'm not fragile
I deny you
I'm not fragile
I'm stronger than you'll ever be
Ooh
Ooh
You don't know me